June 20, 2009

The First Dad

13 comments:

Tammy said...

Heather... this is a beautiful tribute to Ray, and a wonderful glance of the possibilities of openness. It's not perfect, but I know for me, it shows my jadedness at times, as our experience has been so less than this. Blessings to your family... and thanks for sharing these intimate moments with us...

cindy psbm said...

very interesting.
I have often though about my birthson birthfather, Jacob, and how he really feels about letting his son go.
I am going make a blog post about this too, count me in.

Dawn said...

So beautiful -- I google shared this. :)

Lavender Luz said...

I enjoyed reading about the evolution of your relationship with Ray.

He sounds like quite a remarkable man.

mama2roo said...

so sweet. As always, thank you for sharing with us!

a Tonggu Momma said...

I'm really enjoying reading all of these weekly topics. What a wonderful idea, Heather!

Parenthood For Me said...

This provided me with great insight on birth father's emotions. What a great story about the birth of puppy

Jamie said...

this is beautiful......my eyes are full of tears re-walking your journey with you....we are so lucky to be parents through adoption because we get to witness things like this and really "feel" them in our hearts.....

Anonymous said...

This made me cry. What a wonderful tribute to your son's first father!

--Clementine

Meg Weber Jeske said...

Beautiful post, Heather.

luna said...

this is really beautiful, heather. thanks for sharing this story.

Kathy said...

Happy Blogger Bingo! Today's category is to find a post that is more than 4 paragraphs long that was written in June 2009... I found myself on your blog and clicked to your June archives.

This is such a moving post, count me in to those who shed tears reading it. I guess as a woman I have spent more time in my life thinking about what it would be like for a birth mother to give up her baby to be adopted and little to none thinking about the birth father's perspective. Thank you so much for sharing your experience.

My sister and brother-in-law are a few weeks into the process of waiting to be matched for domestic adoption. They have gotten one call so far (which they understand is unusual this early/quickly) letting them know they were part a birth mother's "top 9," but found out yesterday that she didn't choose them. I am so curious how she made her decision and what she was looking for in the future parents of her child.

I have been drawn to blogs about adoption blogs lately, as I want to understand more about the process (pre and post adoption) so I can be as sensative to and supportive of my sister and brother-in-law while they are on this journey to be matched with their child. Thank you again for sharing so openly and candidly.

Elana Kahn said...

I found you from Blogger Bingo (a post that is more than 4 paragraphs long written in June 2009). What an incredible post.

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