January 01, 2000
Who are you?
My name is Heather Schade. I'm a mother of three through domestic infant adoption. My oldest son Eddie (Puppy in older blog entries) was born in the fall of 2005. My daughter Marian (Firefly in the past) was born in the winter of 2008. My youngest son Trey was born in the spring of 2012. All three adoptions are fully open and we wouldn't want it any other way.
I call my husband Todd, or T in the older posts. He is a pretty nifty guy and even has his own adoptive dad blog.
I'm also the caretaker of Open Adoption Bloggers, a network of 300+ bloggers from all sides of adoption writing about their open adoption experiences. I started it because I believe in the power of telling our stories and listening to the stories of others.
I love tasty cake and good television. I believe in God, social justice, and reproductive choice. I'm tickled pink that you've visited my blog.
Why did you adopt?
Like many, Todd and I talked seriously about adoption in the early days of our marriage and hoped to have a mixed family (i.e. both adopted and non-adopted children). When it became obvious there would be some obstacles in our fertility, it was an easy decision to start our family through adoption. Although I am not particularly grateful for my sub-fertility, I am in some way glad for it, because I don't know if we would have had the courage to actually adopt without it. I often feel that I straddle two camps in the adoptive parent world. One foot is in the first-choice adopter camp as we opted to bypass the whole fertility question and jump right into adoption. The other foot is in the world of infertility as I've grappled with the limitations of my body and the loss of reproductive control.
We attended our first adoption agency information session in October 2004 and brought our son, Puppy, home one year later. Both of his first parents were there for him from the beginning and continue to be a part of his life. Although we lived nearby at the time of the adoption, we now are in different states.
We started the agency process again in early 2007 and our daughter, Firefly, was born in February 2008. Posts from that time can be found in the category Adoption--it's a process. Her first parents live fairly nearby and we get to see her first mom about once a month.
As a child I could sing the entire Annie libretto and recite a good portion of the dialogue by heart. Astonishingly, this was of no use during our adoption process.
How 'bout that social networking thing?
If you waste as much time online as I do, you can join me elsewhere: Twitter, Facebook, and Goodreads.
I also shower love on quirky small businesses at the shopping blog Evergreen Moms. Marketers and PR firms are welcome to pitch me directly (almost all reviews and giveaways are posted at the companion PNR review blog) or through Evergreen Moms.
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