April 21, 2008

It's Like "The Secret" for Open Adoption

You remember how Lisa V cosmically conjured a visit with her son's first dad just by thinking about him?

Looks like I did it, too. Not a visit. My mental powers apparently are not as strong as Lisa's yet. But get this:

Ms B was riding a bus Friday afternoon when Firefly's birth dad climbed on board. (!) She told me her first thought was, "Oh, crap." It's been months and months since she last had contact with him.

They had a whole conversation about Firefly. She said he asked a lot of questions about her. She showed him pictures on her cell phone. He told Ms B that Firefly has her cheeks.

She said, "Her adoptive parents really want you in their lives."

He responded, "I know."

I asked Ms B what it was like for her to see him again and have that conversation. She said that it was weird, but she did it because Firefly deserves to know him. I am so impressed with her right now. Had I been in her shoes I don't know that I would have been a big enough person to initiate with him like that.

It's not like all is well now; I don't feel like T and I are any closer to being in touch with him. But it wasn't nothing.

10 comments:

abebech said...

Ms B sounds fantastic. Even if you don't have him in your child's life -- yet -- it's wonderful that she would reach out like that. That isn't nothing at all.

Clementine said...

Wow. Ms. B. is incredibly strong! It sounds like Firefly's first dad knows the score, too; he might just need some time before initiating contact with you. I take it as a very good sign that he knows that you want him in your family's life. Best wishes to all of you!

Dawn said...

Ooh, I need me some of this magic over here! :D

Jenna said...

Does the magic work backwards?

Thanksgivingmom said...

Okay, so Ms. B is totally my role model! Huge hugs to her!!!

Kendra said...

I can't believe how incredibly well that went! I'd say it's off to a good start and that it's a great sign that he was polite to her and interested in seeing pictures. Yay!

Lisa V said...

Yay! We should start a "Medium" club.

Rebecca said...

Wow! :)

Roni said...

Ms. B continues to amaze me.
Positive vibes sed your way...may T contact you soon.

JJandFive said...

At least he knows you want him in your lives. That's reassuring.

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