This post is becoming something of an annual tradition here at the blog; I cannot think of anything I want to say more as May comes around this each year. May has not been an easy month for me for many years now.
I mostly feel the same about Mother's Day as I do about Valentine's Day. I enjoy the private celebrations letting the people I love know how valued they are. I dislike the shallow, frequently sexist, commercialized public commotion that typically only serves to make those on the "outside" feel bad. My time on the outside looking in on those holidays was recent enough that I well remember how awful it can be.
If only there were a way to celebrate our relationships without also dredging up people's regrets, losses or unfulfilled dreams. If you're still waiting and hoping and yearning; if you're not the one raising your child; if you have lost a child or a pregnancy; if the day reminds you of a broken relationship or someone you're missing, I wish for you peace in the present and hope for the future. You are no less valuable, no less worthy of respect and admiration than the people who will be noticed on Sunday. Happy Mother's Day to each of you.
Read what other open adoption bloggers would like to say to you on this Mother's Day at the Open Adoption Bloggers roundtable
10 comments:
Once again, totally beautiful and spot on. And .... I'm crying. Stop it!
You and me both, Harriet. Crying, that is. Dang. Beautiful.
i think you're the coolest girl in school. thank you for being you, and for being parto f my life.
That is just lovely. Thank you.
I truly HATED Mother's Day during the dark days of TTC, pregnancy loss/miscarriage and mourning the stillbirth of our daughter. thank you for your blog and for the Open Adoption Network. When we first adopted our dtr I wanted to shout from the rooftops the miracle of adoption, and I still do!
This is perfect. As an infertile adoptee, whose birthmother refuses contact and whose adoptive mother is dead, I appreciate this. Maybe more than you could ever know.
Thank you!
Beautiful!
Very very very true! It's such a happy day for many, but such a heartache day for others.
Thank you.
Exactly.
I finally wrote a post about that exact thing.
http://seetheorun.com/2013/05/11/mothers-day-painful-for-many/
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