I know there is a wide range of opinions on marking adoption day in any way. Which is fine; if all of us handled adoption in the same way it would be rather strange and Stepford-like. I get why others don't and I like that we do. It's a day for us to say--in a way that communicates to a toddler--that we're happy to be an adoptive family. I hold our celebration lightly; if Puppy grows older and says, "This day is hard for me," we'd honor that. But the memory will always be a pleasant one for me.
I loved T as much the day before our wedding as I did the day after. But there was still something significant for me in publicly declaring our commitment. The court day was similar for me. The finalization only made legal what was already true in our hearts, that we were committed to being Puppy's parents in every way and that we had become a family in the nearly eight months leading up to that day. But it was still moving to be able to say those words aloud in court. I like remembering that day, in the same way I like remembering our wedding anniversary.
For your amusement, this is how a two-year old describes his adoption day:
Mommy and Daddy and Puppy went to the judge! We said, "Hey, we're a family!" And the judge said, "You're a family!"(Stories involve many exclamation points when you're two.) Watching Puppy down his strawberries while he told that story, I was immensely grateful for how things turned out. It didn't have to be this boy with these parents. But I'm so very glad he's here.