It's official. We're approved and waiting to become a family of four.
I'm going to go out on a limb and say that Puppy will have a sibling sometime between next week and 2009. An audacious prediction, I know.
It's nice to be done with the initial flurry of activity, although it wasn't flurry so much as intermittent drizzle on our part. The driven-ness level is definitely ratcheted down on this second adoption process for us. It's not that our desire to parent again is any less, but it is less raw. At times during our first process I had to deliberately bring my own desires into check in order to move through it in a manner I could feel good about. Creating that emotional space has been easier this time, thus far.
When we reached this point last time, I thought the hardest part was behind us. Ahead was a real, live baby and helping out a woman who needed us to come alongside her (that was how I thought of it at the time). But it's more complicated than that. This time I know that the difficult part has yet to come.
So I'm grateful for this pause. Time to enjoy Puppy before he goes from only child to oldest child. Time to gather my thoughts and prepare myself for what comes next.
If we're still waiting two years from now, I may not be so grateful.
8 comments:
Congratulations! Hang on to your hats.
Wonderful news!
Two is definitely tougher from a parenting perspective, but it IS so much fun later when they're old enough to play together.
We'll wait with ya...! :)
--Min
I know the wait is hard. Thanks for keeping us up to date.
That's great. :)
Thanks, friends!
Congrats on getting approved!
My husband and I are just on the cusp of getting approved for our first adoption. Soon we will enter the "we'll be parents in 2 weeks to 2 years" category. Very exciting :)
I really enjoy your blog. We are also pursuing open, domestic adoption and I hope that we can have as thoughtful of a relationship with our future child's first family as you do with your son's.
Thanks!
Congrats Heather on getting here. Like you, our second time around was a much slower process. We knew the tough stuff ahead, not so naive as before. I'll be waiting right here with you and hoping...
That's wonderful news, Heather! Family of four -- doesn't it sound so surreal? We're on the cusp on beginning the journey again and I've often thought how it will be different this time, that my mind and heart are in a different place. You touched on and captured this beautifully.
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