December 08, 2009

Open Adoption Roundtable #11

The Open Adoption Roundtable is a series of occasional writing prompts about open adoption. It's designed to showcase of the diversity of thought and experience in the open adoption community. You don't need to be part of the Open Adoption Bloggers list to participate, or even be in a traditional open adoption. If you're thinking about openness in adoption, you have a place at the table.

Publish your response during the next two weeks--linking back here so we can all find one other--and leave a link to your post in the comments. If you don't blog, you can always leave your thoughts directly in the comments.


An open-ended prompt this round, because it's always interesting to see where each of us takes it:

Write about open adoption and the holiday season.

Previously written posts work, too.

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Adoptive mother Spyderkl at Evil Mommy contrasts an awkward first Christmas with her daughter and their extended families with a warm celebration with her daughter's grandparents by birth.

Adoptive mother Jess at The Problem With Hope says that adding another family to the holiday mix creates some extra busy-ness, but also a lot of extra fun.

Adoptive mother Mama2Roo at Letters to a Birthmother says that the ritual of gift giving reflects the way open adoption enables her son's first family to be a real presence in his life.

First mother Jenna at The Chronicles of Munchkin Land shares how the holidays and and her daughter's birthday are forever intertwined, raising a swirl of emotions each December.

On the first anniversary of surrendering her son, first mother Susiebook at Endure for a Night reflects on how difficult the holiday seasons have been in an otherwise positive open adoption.

First mother Thanksgivingmom at I Should Really Be Working says adoption adds layers complexity and confusion to the holiday season.

Adoptive mother Andy from Today's the Day! tells the story of her son picking out gifts for siblings who don't know he exists.

Adoptive mother Robyn at the Adoption.com domestic adoption blog explores the tension in giving--or not giving--gifts when there are economic differences between adoptive and first families.

As she looks forward to a holiday visit with the teen she may adopt, Thorn at Mother Issues begins to think about how they can be working on openness with his family even now.

First mother Leah at O Momma Writes celebrates the holiday traditions she's created with her daughter's adoptive family over the last five years.

Adoptive mother Kris at My First Gray Hair considers the the possible meanings in the shifting contact with her daughter's first mom.

First mother KatjaMichelle at Therapy Is Expensive imagines her son's Christmas with his adoptive family, while aching over his missing spot in her own family's traditions.

First mother Jenni at Confessions of a Mean Girl Turned Mommy faces her first Christmas in an open adoption, writing that it is like "dancing on a tightrope."

First mother Valerie at From Another Mother wonders how to pick the perfect presents for her son and his adoptive parents.

19 comments:

spyderkl said...

I'm first? That can't be right...

Mine's up here.

Jess said...

Here is mine: http://virtualworldtourjess.blogspot.com/2009/12/open-adoption-round-table-11holidays.html

mama2roo said...

http://mama2roo.wordpress.com/2009/12/10/oart-the-importance-of-christmas-presence/

Can you believe I actually participated online this time, and not just in my head? :)

Sending happy Christmas wishes to you!

Jenna said...

I'm up. Here.

susiebook said...

http://susiebook.wordpress.com/2009/12/09/open-adoption-roundtable-11/ I'm in.

thanksgivingmom said...

Here you go Heather: http://thanksgivingmom.wordpress.com/2009/12/09/open-adoption-roundtable-11-tis-the-season-for-complexit/

My name is Andy. said...

Here's mine:
http://tinyurl.com/oar-11

rredhead said...

Interesting topic! I look forward to reading the other blogs. Mine's at:
http://domestic-infant.adoptionblogs.com/weblogs/open-adoption-roundtable-holidays

A said...

I didn't write about the prompt (I'll be back in next time, those of you who know me are aware things have been busy in my neck of adoption-land) but I did write about why I didn't write about it! If that makes sense...

anyways, that post is here.

motherissues said...

I wrote one, and I'm very grateful to you for getting me thinking about practical ways to incorporate openness into the holidays.

Leah said...

http://omommawrites.com/2009/12/10/christmas-traditions-adoption-style/

My post is up :-)

Kris said...

I finally wrote one!

http://myfirstgrayhair.blogspot.com/2009/12/adoption-and-holidays.html

Jenni said...

Here is mine as well. http://meangirl2mommy.blogspot.com/2009/12/open-adoption-roundtable-11.html

Totally disjointed, but ah well. What can you do? lol

Valerie said...

I wrote this one, and I guess it counts, though it wasn't what I thought about when I first saw this roundtable post go up. Perhaps that post will come eventually too.

http://mamavalerius.blogspot.com/2009/12/christmas-adventures.html

Dr. Mor said...

Merry Christmas

Lavonne said...

Here is mine. It's all I can manage right now!

http://eyeswideopenmotherhood.blogspot.com/2009/12/oa-roundtable.html

Amstel said...

http://amstel-life.blogspot.com/2009/12/open-adoption-and-christmas.html

From: Amstel Life

Amy Hutton

deannalynnc said...

Here is mine:

http://adayinthelifeofdeanna.blogspot.com/2009/12/open-adoption-and-holiday-season.html

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