February 12, 2009

Q&A: WAHM & WOHD

Hitting the easy questions first...

Mayhem asks,
Are either you or your husband stay-home parents, or do you both work outside the home?
We both have paying jobs. T is a teacher and coach, so he works full-time-plus during the school year and is home during the summer. I work part-time for a non-profit, from our house. Three days a week, I drive the kids to their babysitter's house, then drive back home to work. You can tell it's a work day for me if I'm twittering. Ahem.

Ironically, because of how far the babysitter is from us, my 'commute' time is five times longer than it was when I worked in the organization's office in California. I still think it's worth it, because the whole thing is a pretty great set-up at this stage in our lives. We're both challenged creatively by our work and I still get to do playgroups and library storytime and all those other SAHM-y things with the kids. And every week during the summer we have four consecutive free days to do whatever we want. Summers are awesome 'round here.

On a related note, T took four months of family leave when Puppy was born and was the full-time, at-home parent. (I was still working full-time at that point.) He was great at it and I think it laid the foundation for the nice balance of parenting duties we now enjoy. But you would not believe the sexist bullshit he heard from his co-workers about that choice. Of course, this was the same group who fired him from his coaching job for daring to take three days--three!--off for his kid's birth. So our expectations of them weren't all that high. But still. Asshats.

3 comments:

Jenn Mc said...

I'm so glad you brought this up!! My husband stays at home with our son and he constantly gets snarky comments from other men. I tell him they are just jealous. He's a GREAT dad and I love watching him interact with our son.

Go T!

luna said...

this is such a tough subject for so many. good to see you both have found a good balance.

I think M and I will both be wanting to take turns SAH -- were' still trying to work out what would happen in the long term.

mayhem said...

Thanks for answering my question!

I had to smile reading this-- you really must have been pissed at those co-workers (and rightly so), because I don't think I've ever seen you blog "sexist bullshit" or "asshat" before! :)

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