February 12, 2009


Hitting the easy questions first...

Mayhem asks,
Are either you or your husband stay-home parents, or do you both work outside the home?
We both have paying jobs. T is a teacher and coach, so he works full-time-plus during the school year and is home during the summer. I work part-time for a non-profit, from our house. Three days a week, I drive the kids to their babysitter's house, then drive back home to work. You can tell it's a work day for me if I'm twittering. Ahem.

Ironically, because of how far the babysitter is from us, my 'commute' time is five times longer than it was when I worked in the organization's office in California. I still think it's worth it, because the whole thing is a pretty great set-up at this stage in our lives. We're both challenged creatively by our work and I still get to do playgroups and library storytime and all those other SAHM-y things with the kids. And every week during the summer we have four consecutive free days to do whatever we want. Summers are awesome 'round here.

On a related note, T took four months of family leave when Puppy was born and was the full-time, at-home parent. (I was still working full-time at that point.) He was great at it and I think it laid the foundation for the nice balance of parenting duties we now enjoy. But you would not believe the sexist bullshit he heard from his co-workers about that choice. Of course, this was the same group who fired him from his coaching job for daring to take three days--three!--off for his kid's birth. So our expectations of them weren't all that high. But still. Asshats.


Jenn Mc said...

I'm so glad you brought this up!! My husband stays at home with our son and he constantly gets snarky comments from other men. I tell him they are just jealous. He's a GREAT dad and I love watching him interact with our son.

Go T!

luna said...

this is such a tough subject for so many. good to see you both have found a good balance.

I think M and I will both be wanting to take turns SAH -- were' still trying to work out what would happen in the long term.

Anonymous said...

Thanks for answering my question!

I had to smile reading this-- you really must have been pissed at those co-workers (and rightly so), because I don't think I've ever seen you blog "sexist bullshit" or "asshat" before! :)

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