September 19, 2007

Details

Sorry to leave you all hanging the other day. But I had already gone on so long about jewelry, for goodness sake.

Thank you so much for being excited about our news. That was very sweet.

So we are officially matched, much sooner than we were anticipating. (I dislike the word "matched," it makes me feel like I'm in some weird dating service. But it is what it is.) Most of what we know is private. But! I can tell you that Ms B (expectant mom) is gung-ho for openness (whoo!). And she lives about one hour from us (easy visiting!)

We won't get to meet her until next month. Generally our agency won't connect expectant parents and prospective adoptive parents until the second trimester is over. They feel it's important to not get too far into an adoption plan that early in a pregnancy, to allow women to just be pregnant for awhile while exploring their options. Early matches can create a lot of pressure, whether intentional or not. But I get the sense that Ms B is a determined woman who has her own thoughts about how the process should go. So the agency compromised by asking us if we'd be willing to pull our profile from the pool, but wait to meet until the end of her second trimester. (For those of you trying to do the math in your head, she's due in late January.) I have mixed feelings about the deviation from their normal practice, but had some good conversations with them about when and why they consider compromises. They're using this time to connect her with local support services and continue counseling. She is also seeing a counselor who is not connected to the agency.

Throughout this process I've been praying for the people who might see our profile materials, that they would be supported in their decision-making process and find the answers that are right for them. Now I have someone to pray for by name, as well. It's a nice change. It's interesting, our adoption experience with Puppy's first parents has become so much about the relationships that it's hard for me to wrap my mind around this possibility without having met Ms B.

On a different note, I have no idea why I didn't think to just show you a picture of the necklace. You mean my amazing powers of description weren't enough? It looks like this:

10 comments:

Ems said...

How exciting for you! My Mr. Coffee was adopted so we hope to someday do the same.

Beautiful necklace...

justenjoyhim/judy said...

The necklace is beautiful! I've seen those types of necklaces before; different styles. May I ask where/who makes them?

And that's so great that Ms. B. wants an open adoption, is getting counseling, etc.

:)

Erin said...

LOVE the necklace. And I think your agency sounds great :)

Praying for everybody

Heather.PNR said...

Judy, they're made by an artist in San Francisco and sold at Superhero Designs. Mine is Earth.

BlessedWithDaughters said...

Oooh, that's lovely!

January feels like a long way away for those of us living vicariously. But it's great she'll have several more months of counseling.

Tickled for you and will be praying...

Min

Clementine said...

Oh, what wonderful news! I'll be thinking y'all and the baby's parents.

Random side note: Hester was born in January! I think it's a good month to have a birthday.

Your necklace is gorgeous. I hope you'll wear it with joy.

Jenna said...

Oh, end of January, eh? (Our due date is early December, most likely end of November with my health.) When you're finally in contact with her, feel free to pass on my contact info if she needs someone to talk to at all.

That said, very very very very exciting. And that necklace? Mmmm. I've bookmarked it. Mmm. Pretty, TOO! I think I might need TWO necklaces now. LOL

SJ said...

That necklace is beautiful! I know you'll enjoy wearing it :) And congratulations again!!

Cloudscome said...

That beautiful necklace is so full of joy! What a wonderful way to celebrate the moments. I am happy for you, thinking of you soon adding another child.

Your news is exciting ! I am glad to hear she is getting so much support and I join you in praying for her and her baby.

Shawn & Lisa said...

How exciting... I'm very happy for all of you :)

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