Comments on Production, Not Reproduction | A blog about open adoption & host of Open Adoption Bloggers: Boundaries

Here via Dawn who quoted you--I'm an every so ofte...

2009-10-19T13:38:38.079-07:00

Here via Dawn who quoted you--I'm an every so often lurker, but I used to read more frequently a few years ago. I just realized today that I do know you in real life. I'll give your space and not visit again, but I thought I might mention it as others in our social circle might also know.

Bethany of the bald toddler and who blogs at http://www.wavybrains.com

I know that once I'm actually in an open adoption,...

2009-10-13T14:57:50.075-07:00

I know that once I'm actually in an open adoption, I'll be coming back to this post to learn how it should be done!

@junebug - Her Bad Mother created the very sort of...

2009-10-13T12:06:31.532-07:00

@junebug - Her Bad Mother created the very sort of anonymous blog you were talking about--have you seen it?

I do the opposite, assuming that no one in the ope...

2009-10-12T15:40:25.699-07:00

I do the opposite, assuming that no one in the open adoption relationship will ever read my blog; but if that happened, I think I'd be able to deal with it. Until reading your post, I hadn't realized this, but I think that I might not be as open if I had real rage about the adoption or thought hateful things about my son's parents. As it is, I think it's clear in my writing that I understand that my feelings are about me, and that I love and respect them--so even if they found it, I think it would turn out okay. Thanks for the thought provocation. =)

I have to agree with all of this post. I probably...

2009-10-11T23:31:27.646-07:00

I have to agree with all of this post. I probably don't hide enough information that people wouldn't be able to figure out its me plus the photos but I am very careful about what I say. I have lots of comments just building up in my head because I can't put them in my usual outlet of my blog. I rarely give out my blog address to friends or family. It would be fun to create another blog that several people share but where they can be secret bloggers and share what are probably some pretty darn good blogs that they just can't put out there on their own blogs. Kind of like that post a secret thing. I'm glad I'm not the only one who highly censors herself.

This a great post. It touches on alot of things I ...

2009-10-11T16:33:31.770-07:00

This a great post. It touches on alot of things I have been thinking about lately regarding my blog. I was very open in the beginning but as my blog grew I made a psuedo name for my son and stopped posting pictures. I also stopped posting about some of my personal experiences for fear of alienting myself from certain friends. I have never said anything bad but I have also expressed feelings on my blog that I could not in real life. I have found that things have become very touchy for me regarding my blog. In the past month I have steered towards post that are less personal and more about health and happiness. I need a break from my life being in the spotlight.

Yeah, what you say here explains alot. I know that...

2009-10-10T18:05:35.307-07:00

Yeah, what you say here explains alot.
I know that I should have written my blog like you write yours.
I have learned the hard way that I have likely been deeply disrespectful.
Thankfully though, my son's adoptive parents seem to have let go of their offense and still remain 'open' to keeping me in my son's life.

I very much relate to this... especially the part ...

2009-10-10T08:39:38.750-07:00

I very much relate to this... especially the part about wishing you could write about certain things but holding back. As much as we think it might be sometimes, blogs are not journals if others can read it! Lately, during the first 2 months of my daughter's life, I haven't been blogging much. I say it's b/c I don't have much to share, but really it's b/c most of my thoughts/frustrations have centered around my husband and us adjusting to having a child. He reads my blog religiously - so, no posts!!

I am like you--I assume anyone I write about may r...

2009-10-10T05:06:17.229-07:00

I am like you--I assume anyone I write about may read it (including official people connected to my host countries). I change names, and I'm never completely open, although I strive to be completely honest at the same time. Sometimes I long for a real "journal" where I could gripe and wail and gnash my teeth, metaphorically speaking, or even talk about good things that I choose to keep private. But overall, I think the way I'm doing it works best for us.