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Wow. Just finished watching "In the Matter.....

2010-09-08T19:22:02.006-07:00

Wow. Just finished watching "In the Matter...". I am left heart-broken for that little girl. What I find so frustrating with transracial adoption is that so many families go into it thinking "I don't see race, it's not an issue". But it IS an issue for the child of a different race. I cannot imagine how this child is basically being asked to suppress her Chinese-ness so that she can fit in with her white, American family.

Her father's obvious defensiveness when faced with the issue of race was revolting. Like watching some Bruce Lee movies and going down to the China Buffet is really going to make his little girl feel better. I think also, when the mother laughed with relish how Faith now doesn't like her Chinese sister, I felt a little sick.

Two things I can say positively about this couple is that they at least made an attempt to see a therapist (albeit some 18 months AFTER the kid was home) and that they let her still talk to her foster family.

When are agencies going to get on the ball and teach their adoptive families something about transracial adoption?? Gotta say, that film just touched a VERY sore spot in this new mama of a transracial baby. Grrrrrrrr.

Thank you for posting these; otherwise I would hav...

2010-09-06T18:37:08.972-07:00

Thank you for posting these; otherwise I would have missed them. I just watched the first one. I found it very painful. (I'm not trying to be anonymous; it wouldn't let me use my name.)~ Mia

i just watching "off and running" this w...

2010-09-05T18:36:27.816-07:00

i just watching "off and running" this weekend and thought it was well done. a bit slow but so definitely worth watching and it leaves some meat for discussion at the end.

Wow, those sound like they would be incredible to ...

2010-09-04T21:30:35.228-07:00

Wow, those sound like they would be incredible to watch. I am sorry to have missed them...

Dude. I'm watching the first one, and I am co...

2010-09-03T11:04:40.941-07:00

Dude. I'm watching the first one, and I am completely crying at the meeting with their little girl. She's so old, and she has to be so scared, it's awful in so many ways. Oh my gosh. It breaks your heart!! You can't help but wish she could stay in China with a foster family even. I can't imagine leaving your EVERYTHING. Oh my goodness.

It's just heartbreaking! And it hurts me a lot that they're changing her name....she's SO old...I know they think that it'll help her, and maybe it will, and at least they're keeping her name as her middle, but....oh dear, it just seems ill advised in a country like ours where plenty of Chinese people live!

As for the orphanage situation...it's just...oh my. They don't even know her birthdate and the place where she was found was her surname. It's so, so sad. Oh...dear, the poor child(ren).

wishing I had cable or lived in the us so i could ...

2010-08-31T04:51:26.094-07:00

wishing I had cable or lived in the us so i could watch them online. thanks for the info though, I will watch for them elsewhere.

Would love to watch all or some of these - bet the...

2010-08-31T00:50:41.475-07:00

Would love to watch all or some of these - bet they won't be shown in the UK though. Hulu maybe?

Just set my DVR for the first film. Up and Runnin...

2010-08-30T21:09:13.154-07:00

Just set my DVR for the first film. Up and Running isn't up on the schedule yet, so i am going to write my self an old-fashioned note to remember to DVR it. :) Thanks for the heads up!

Tried to set my DVR and my PBS station isn't s...

2010-08-30T19:32:39.312-07:00

Tried to set my DVR and my PBS station isn't showing them! What the bunny? Boo!

The other PBS, which we don't get, is, but of course...little help since we don't get it!

Thank you so much for the head's up! I will be...

2010-08-30T17:49:53.081-07:00

Thank you so much for the head's up! I will be sure to set my DVR!!