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We have a boy that is soo into his birthday, it's ...

2009-10-15T15:03:50.245-07:00

We have a boy that is soo into his birthday, it's in January and we're already asking about it. He'll be five this year, and as soon as that happens he'll be asking about Kindergarten.

We are just finalizing our adoption of him and his twin sister and their older brother, we've had them since the twins were five weeks, and finally after all this time, mama is remembering that they love their birthday and want to share it with her.

hugs to puppy and you

I so hear you on this. Happy birthday to a sweet, ...

2009-10-14T11:28:32.637-07:00

I so hear you on this. Happy birthday to a sweet, big boy. Four is awesome in so many ways- I hope he has a good one, and that you all do too.

I went back and read your earlier posts that you l...

2009-10-13T16:25:51.434-07:00

I went back and read your earlier posts that you linked. I have SO been there on the subject of wishing things were simpler, and that I didn't have to "share" my boys with another mom, but it IS reality, and sometimes it's just emotionally draining!!! BUT, our kids would not be who they are if I wished life to be different, and I have no desire to change my life...so I just have to "suck it up" (my words to myself) and move on...

Oh, poor Puppy. He sounds like such a sweet little...

2009-10-13T12:32:44.271-07:00

Oh, poor Puppy. He sounds like such a sweet little boy. And it must seem like such an impossible thing to explain to him. I hope he has the best 4th birthday, with presents from all the important people.

(We've just nominated you for the Kreativ Blogger award over on our blog.)

I have only heard from one of my kids first parent...

2009-10-13T10:12:25.636-07:00

I have only heard from one of my kids first parents on a birthday...ever. And it was a month late. But it was something. Sad.

that has to be so hard, trying to manage or at lea...

2009-10-13T09:53:30.912-07:00

that has to be so hard, trying to manage or at least address his expectations. I really hope they pull through this year. he sounds like such a sweet boy.

Oh sweet Puppy... I think sometimes part of wha...

2009-10-13T09:10:24.444-07:00

Oh sweet Puppy...

I think sometimes part of what makes it tricky for me is not knowing what will happen and therefore not knowing how best to prepare. Does that make sense? Pumpkin's mom has always called on his birthday and on significant holidays, which is awesome. Sometimes she sends a gift and sometimes not. Happily, Pumpkin doesn't seem to be super sensitive about whether or not there are gifts/cards. He's most excited about getting to talk to his sisters on the phone. So I'm glad that so far he's always been able to have the contact or acknowledgement that's most important to him. Hoping for that for Puppy this year!

Actually, my son's grandparents (my in-laws) sometimes don't recognize their birthdays at all and that annoys me to no end. The boys have not noticed...

Puppy is not the only one! I'm an adult, and it st...

2009-10-13T08:53:07.831-07:00

Puppy is not the only one! I'm an adult, and it still hurt that my birth parents didn't even acknowledge my birthday this year. Those hurts don't ever quite vanish. But he's lucky to have a MOM who loves him so much!

I'm sorry that things are so hard for Puppy and th...

2009-10-13T07:36:01.788-07:00

I'm sorry that things are so hard for Puppy and that whatever is keeping his first parents from honoring his birthday is standing in the way. It is very hard to see our children hurting so much and not being able to fix it. It's by far the most painful thing I've had to deal with in my parenting career so far. I just have to keep reminding myself that the only thing I can do is what I also need to do -- hold her in my love and prayers and see her through it. I just wish that felt like enough.

Oh, this makes my guts anxious. I KNOW so well wh...

2009-10-13T07:06:04.644-07:00

Oh, this makes my guts anxious. I KNOW so well what you're saying and think I know what you're feeling. Leave it to our boys to be so perceptive.

In the meantime, as you wait and hope, I'll be hoping right along with you, and wishing Puppy has the very best 4th birthday that anyone could possibly have. I'm loving that kiddo from here!
AND-love the chain idea!!

This makes me so sad for you and for Puppy. It's ...

2009-10-13T06:47:15.023-07:00

This makes me so sad for you and for Puppy. It's so hard to see your child's feelings hurt. I hope that your sweet Puppy gets a special package in the mail today!

I struggle with visits that are initiated and then...

2009-10-13T05:45:53.326-07:00

I struggle with visits that are initiated and then must be canceled at the LAST minute. ::: SIGH :::

The optimist in me keeps trying.