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'Kay, I'm really late to this party, but h...

2011-11-04T11:36:44.028-07:00

'Kay, I'm really late to this party, but had I given birth to my daughter, I'd probably not notice (or would at least take for granted) the things she'd do that were "like me". Every now and then, she does something so unlike anything I or my partner do...and so identically like what her birthmum or dad do. And I LOVE telling them about it. She's almost 2 now, and has just started pushing her hair out of her eyes with the pinkie finger of each hand (who uses their pinkie finger??? - her birthmom, that's who). So telling S about the fact that our daughter does this exactly the way S does, makes S's day - it will someday, I hope, make my daughter's day....and no-one takes this simple little thing for granted.

Haha, can I use number 7 as my excuse for why I ha...

2011-01-11T15:36:29.255-08:00

Haha, can I use number 7 as my excuse for why I have never left Jayden for more than 20 minutes? (And even leaving him for 20 minutes only happened twice in 4 months.)I'm pretty sure people think I'm nuts.

Great list. All of it.

Love your list! Love it! My addition: we are the ...

2010-09-23T20:27:23.118-07:00

Love your list! Love it!

My addition: we are the only family I know where my husband knew we were having a baby before I did! (The agency called him, he called me.)

Because doing it different is how we roll.

Wow. I just found your blog and this list is abso...

2010-09-17T18:31:32.302-07:00

Wow. I just found your blog and this list is absolutely fantastic. I've had so very many of the same thoughts. Awesome. Thanks.

Every time someone comments on this post, it sends...

2010-09-14T01:49:31.679-07:00

Every time someone comments on this post, it sends me an e-mail. It's been a while since I read the list, and we now have our little boy.He's currently 14months old (yesterday) and we've had him since he was 7.5mnths.

Thank you for reminding me it would get better. I now read your post and smile because I feel all those things and more. The time really drags whilst waiting to be approved to adopt, and then drags even longer whilst waiting for matching. Once you're matched, the waiting for the approval is unbearable! However, time flies once you have your little one home.

Hope all of you guys are doing well

xxx

(formerly posted as 'sparrow')

Thank you for this post. I return to it again and ...

2010-09-13T06:15:47.852-07:00

Thank you for this post. I return to it again and again when I'm feeling a bit overwhelmed with the process.

pretty cool stuff here thank you!!!!!!!

2010-08-28T01:14:59.020-07:00

pretty cool stuff here thank you!!!!!!!

Hi there, Came here via Creme de la Creme... what ...

2010-04-15T09:35:05.143-07:00

Hi there,
Came here via Creme de la Creme... what a fantastic post. My husband and I have recently made the decision to adopt, and we're in that super-overwhelming initial phase where we're researching like fiends. This is a very inspiring list that I'm going to share with my husband in our ever expanding folder of stuff about adoption. Also - number 8: IF and unplanned pregnancy as two sides to the same coin... insightful, poignant, and true. Fantastic post.

Wow, wow, wow. Found you on Creme de la Creme and ...

2010-02-09T08:40:06.889-08:00

Wow, wow, wow. Found you on Creme de la Creme and am interested in reading more of your blog.

I would love to consider adoption at this point but my husband isn't there (yet).

your #8 blew me away - unplanned pregnancy and infertility must be similar - getting what you don't want, not getting what you want.

Eye opening. THANK YOU & look forward to getting to know you!

Here from Creme... Wonderful list! I also love t...

2010-01-16T18:41:20.018-08:00

Here from Creme...

Wonderful list! I also love the line about hogging the wee ones. Absolutely perfect.

Popping in from the crème de la crème list. Grea...

2010-01-16T10:43:23.305-08:00

Popping in from the crème de la crème list.

Great post!

I love this list. And I fully intend to use attach...

2010-01-06T17:32:05.918-08:00

I love this list. And I fully intend to use attachment as an excuse to hog the baby too! :)

Fantastic list...

2010-01-06T07:03:49.442-08:00

Fantastic list...

Stopping by from the Creme list... I love this po...

2010-01-05T19:24:22.518-08:00

Stopping by from the Creme list...

I love this post. So often when pondering adoption, I know I focus more on the challenges that it will likely pose. I love that you have taken the time to remind yourself and us why it is so incredibly awesome.

From the Creme. Love you list :-).

2010-01-05T15:49:08.048-08:00

From the Creme.
Love you list :-).

Here from Creme! I whole heartdly agree! I love t...

2010-01-04T10:07:05.605-08:00

Here from Creme!

I whole heartdly agree! I love this and will start to read your blog now- thanks Mel!

We've done 10 IVFs and had 4 losses, one at 20 weeks. We dont know what to do next but adoption is certainly on the table. I am all for open or semi-open, so your blog will be great for me!

Sunshine

I enjoyed this even more the second time around. E...

2010-01-01T20:46:23.863-08:00

I enjoyed this even more the second time around. Excellent choice for the creme, Heather.

Here from creme de la creme. Ditto #11 being not...

2010-01-01T17:14:03.621-08:00

Here from creme de la creme.

Ditto #11 being not having to deal with the fog your brain takes on after the hormones have wreaked their havoc on you.

Great list!!!

I still want to adopt one day.. and for many of th...

2010-01-01T11:51:45.436-08:00

I still want to adopt one day.. and for many of the reasons on this list. I hope we get to that place financially and emotionally.

And HAHAHAHAH at #5. That is indeed a blessing.

Here from the Creme... Numbers 2 and 3 I can total...

2010-01-01T11:02:37.630-08:00

Here from the Creme... Numbers 2 and 3 I can totally relate. People always do a double take with us.

Thank you for this list. For a couple deciding wh...

2010-01-01T11:00:22.774-08:00

Thank you for this list. For a couple deciding what the next step to a child is, it's nice to hear an honest opinion from a Mom.

I enjoyed this the first time around, and I am enj...

2010-01-01T08:34:21.069-08:00

I enjoyed this the first time around, and I am enjoying it again in 2010.

Excellent choice for Creme.

Thank you for this list. We are currently waiting ...

2009-10-25T10:23:07.824-07:00

Thank you for this list. We are currently waiting for matching with open adoption, and this list has definitely given us something to look forward to, whilst feeling in 'limbo'! :)

i just love this. it's everything i think but...

2009-08-27T22:11:34.621-07:00

i just love this. it's everything i think but am not eloquent enough to put into words!

So.... About #7... If I use "because I can't have ...

2009-05-09T12:33:00.000-07:00

So.... About #7... If I use "because I can't have my own" as an excuse to be the baby-hog now, with other people's children... Is that creating a truly horrific MONSTER baby-hog, you know, for attachment purposes, when we do finally get to adopt? ;)
Thanks for this blog! We're less than a year away from applying for adoption, so I'm reading all I can.