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Brilliant post -- particularly that last sentence....

2009-10-10T11:47:18.010-07:00

Brilliant post -- particularly that last sentence.

errr, sorry, just realised you have a 'subscribe' ...

2009-10-10T06:37:41.109-07:00

errr, sorry, just realised you have a 'subscribe' button! I've clicked on that now... all is well.

Thanks so much for writing this, it is beautifully...

2009-10-10T06:36:20.736-07:00

Thanks so much for writing this, it is beautifully expressed.

by the way, I would love to follow your blog but I can't find the usual button to do this (maybe because you are a .com?) - do you know if there is any way I can do this? Thanks!!

Powerful post. I am glad someone gets it.

2009-10-07T17:44:06.218-07:00

Powerful post. I am glad someone gets it.

Great post. I think a lot of people have a really...

2009-10-05T13:38:53.045-07:00

Great post. I think a lot of people have a really hard time grasping this and you worded it so perfectly!

Rosie O'Donnell's statement frequently reminds of ...

2009-10-01T18:29:48.839-07:00

Rosie O'Donnell's statement frequently reminds of the first time I read Karen Evans' book "The Lost Daughters of China." She quotes a line from a social worker that says "We say that these babies were born in the wrong tummies, but now they have found the right parents."

Slap in the face.

I also love the way you discuss these issues. I ad...

2009-10-01T07:29:59.786-07:00

I also love the way you discuss these issues. I adopted my 3 girls through foster care and even though my kids don't talk to their mom any more (her choice not ours), we thank God for her everyday. We talk a lot about how lucky our kids are to have 2 moms and 2 dads, some kids only get 1. We also talk about how our kids can CHOOSE to take the best parts of each of their parents and incorporate that into their lives - how wonderful to have so much choice. Even in the smallest ways, having connections can matter so much.

Thanks for discussing this Heather! I think one ...

2009-09-30T12:43:22.713-07:00

Thanks for discussing this Heather!

I think one of the things that struck me the most in this situation was that I heard an outcry from many folks about how unfair it was that the woman that carried the child would not be parenting him. I heard cries of, "But he only knows her scent!" and "But he knows her voice!" - I feel like I hardly ever hear these things when an expectant Mother is considering placing her biological child...

I primarily heard this from adoptive parents, who argued that biology shouldn't trump the parenting this woman has done - and I understand that biology is NOT the key to Motherhood - look no farther than your beautiful family to know that! But it was the insistence that in many ways this woman is still a "Mother" in a sense to this child that got me.

I admit, it HURT that people were so willing to give her the title of Mother when it's something I hear being denied time after time to first parents....I don't know - I have so many thoughts on this, and I know I can share them in my own space, haha! But thank you for YOUR take on it! :)

Wow - you have an absolutely amazing way of unders...

2009-09-30T12:29:10.785-07:00

Wow - you have an absolutely amazing way of understanding and explaining these huge issues. Thank you so much for sharing them with us!