tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19220163.post6460544847756859697..comments2008-07-29T13:43:34.949-07:00Heather Schadehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17535502003333457420noreply@blogger.comBlogger10125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19220163.post-30741343202788635262008-07-29T13:43:00.000-07:002008-07-29T13:43:00.000-07:00this is a really wonderful post. I love how you acknowledge how the gentle push to go beyond your comfort zone benefits puppy. maybe it was not intuitive at first, but it seems right.lunahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15455301696832647867noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19220163.post-28821094891657566282007-10-08T13:16:00.000-07:002007-10-08T13:16:00.000-07:00I just re-stumbled across this post (I had previously read it on OAS), and I wanted to let you know that it has helped me re-think my relationship with my son's firstmother -- in a good way. Thanks!shanamadelehttp://shanamadele.livejournal.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19220163.post-46559260077366154462007-07-22T10:45:00.000-07:002007-07-22T10:45:00.000-07:00"I suppose you could say that the interaction with Puppy’s first family causes the weird feelings, but to me it seems like it is just drawing out things that are already there under the surface."<BR/> <BR/>Great post! This quote really resonated with me :)Tishslphttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04751055983611611250noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19220163.post-2998019476265918522007-07-14T13:51:00.000-07:002007-07-14T13:51:00.000-07:00Exactly exactly exactly! What we feel is what we feel - what we do with those feelings, the decisions we make and the actions we take are something else.<BR/><BR/>This post also says something I believe strongly - that adoptive parenting and parenting a child born to you are two different things, and we cannot make them the same. Adoptive parenting comes with responsibilities that parents of children born to them don't have, and it's so important for us to accept that.<BR/><BR/>Thanks for a terrific post!Third Momhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06310395341252295955noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19220163.post-29602783318870145372007-03-31T03:02:00.000-07:002007-03-31T03:02:00.000-07:00This is a great post. You said is so well! You are so honest and direct... challenging and accepting at the same time. Thank you.cloudscomehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12355192738014962965noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19220163.post-13648604176555457482007-03-28T12:41:00.000-07:002007-03-28T12:41:00.000-07:00Yay! I can't wait to read it.Heatherhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05737780263679929983noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19220163.post-22110397767560028702007-03-28T12:20:00.000-07:002007-03-28T12:20:00.000-07:00I liked this post so much, that I am writing a post of my own about it!Cookiehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09360315335057586498noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19220163.post-89885925098279571482007-03-27T18:15:00.000-07:002007-03-27T18:15:00.000-07:00It's like my inner momma bear just gets a little confused sometimes.Heatherhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05737780263679929983noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19220163.post-49999024153988698232007-03-27T17:27:00.000-07:002007-03-27T17:27:00.000-07:00Brandi, you said what I was trying to say with way fewer words!Heatherhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05737780263679929983noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19220163.post-47545072505433470492007-03-27T13:14:00.000-07:002007-03-27T13:14:00.000-07:00You're right, we can't control our baser emotions...all we can control is our actions. It's amazing though- when we force ourselves past those hair trigger emotions to a more dispassionate evaluation of the scene (rather than acting on them impulsively) often the next emotional reaction is different in the same or similar situation. Different meaning less intense, less troubling, less fearful, sometimes even positive rather than negative...a complete 180.<BR/><BR/>So, we can somewhat change our "gut" reactions by applying our logic, reasoning, and less reptilian brain faculties.<BR/><BR/>I am babbling but great post. Thanks again.Brandihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12392285486635195796noreply@blogger.com