tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19220163.post5460209827284112589..comments2023-07-28T02:29:08.172-07:00Comments on Production, Not Reproduction | A blog about open adoption: This Just Doesn't Sit RightHeatherhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05737780263679929983noreply@blogger.comBlogger17125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19220163.post-90228660825783293412008-09-27T22:37:00.000-07:002008-09-27T22:37:00.000-07:00And another thing... I'm sorry I'm just so angry a...And another thing... I'm sorry I'm just so angry about this... I hope the lawmakers pull their heads out of their nether regions and change the law this year. I'm embarrassed to be associated with Nebraska some times.Mindihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07532018311283700685noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19220163.post-20906860783467060202008-09-27T22:36:00.000-07:002008-09-27T22:36:00.000-07:00If you've been following this story at all you've ...If you've been following this story at all you've probably heard that this past week a dad dropped off his 9 - yes NINE, children ages 1-17 because he couldn't take care of them anymore. Now the family is coming out of the woodwork and they're trying to get the kids back. This isn't what the Safe Haven law is about people. Apparently his wife has died, his house is in forclosure and the utilities have been turned off. So... In the long run, maybe for the younger children this would have been an option because if the dad goes to live on the street with the kids, they're going to be taken away anyway, but really...? A 17 year old. She wrote in her shcool newspaper last year that she was basically parenting the younger kids since her mom had passed away. I feel so sorry for this girl, I'd love to take her home with me and let her be a teenager for pete's sake.Mindihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07532018311283700685noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19220163.post-90783005054307633352008-09-21T17:41:00.000-07:002008-09-21T17:41:00.000-07:00I am just stunned and really have no words to say ...I am just stunned and really have no words to say how utterly ridiculous this is. People in Nebraska need to write their law makers and get this changed. What were they thinking. I mean come on, really?Michellehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03661220372372737455noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19220163.post-9978701240414867092008-09-21T15:59:00.000-07:002008-09-21T15:59:00.000-07:00WHAT WERE THESE PEOPLE THINKING? I am so sorry to ...WHAT WERE THESE PEOPLE THINKING? I am so sorry to hear about the boys.<BR/><BR/>Here from ICLW.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19220163.post-74587253862956247472008-09-21T11:56:00.000-07:002008-09-21T11:56:00.000-07:00*New reader* WOW what a post to read on my first v...*New reader* WOW what a post to read on my first visit to your blog. It made me angry and sad. I totally understand why those laws are in effect, but 19 years old?! That's not right. Those poor boys, I can't believe that! I just can't see how one can drop off a child, no matter how badly they behave..sickening..<BR/>-D *ICLW*Beautiful Messhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02425541240465474148noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19220163.post-78445660284942903072008-09-21T11:52:00.000-07:002008-09-21T11:52:00.000-07:00Amen and AMEN to your definitive conclusion. The e...Amen and AMEN to your definitive conclusion. The ethically unfair feeling between US (those who want our children but will never get to have them) and THEM (those who CHOOSE to leave theirs - however they became theirs - behind) will never resolve, but this is ridiculous. <BR/><BR/>(oh no...now I'm on MY soapbox)<BR/><BR/>I'll stop there, but thank you for the public service announcement!<BR/><BR/>ICLWCarahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08878937591945134056noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19220163.post-42781611904831596252008-09-21T09:50:00.000-07:002008-09-21T09:50:00.000-07:00That is totally against the original intention of ...That is totally against the original intention of those laws. I feel so sorry for those boys.<BR/><BR/>ICLWKristinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10791317184998122691noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19220163.post-58948332670923636372008-09-21T06:28:00.000-07:002008-09-21T06:28:00.000-07:00Appalled is the word that comes to mind for me. A...Appalled is the word that comes to mind for me. <BR/><BR/>Appalled that Nebraska thought this was a good idea.<BR/>Appalled that it was actually used.<BR/>Appalled that people who would use a law like that were actually gifted with children to begin with. <BR/><BR/>Devil's Advocate: On the other hand, in my line of work of parenting/nutrition/anger management/domestic violence classes for those court ordered, I often see them after it is way too late and they have permanently damaged the children. Ideally if the system worked and there were plenty of good homes for the children to go to for healing instead of being stuck in a cruel, inhumane system it might save lives. <BR/><BR/>Here from ICLW.junebughttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16597959014121851131noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19220163.post-75804131487644933372008-09-20T20:12:00.000-07:002008-09-20T20:12:00.000-07:00I don't know if we have those laws over here, but ...I don't know if we have those laws over here, but it sounds like Nebraska has taken this not quite as seriously as they possibly should have. 19 seems a little "old" <BR/><BR/>Here from ICLW.Mrs Woggiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05597471152428982909noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19220163.post-32499695626813850272008-09-19T07:44:00.000-07:002008-09-19T07:44:00.000-07:00This is a serious post, but I have to admit - I bu...This is a serious post, but I have to admit - I burst out laughing at your comparison to returning a sweater.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19220163.post-46366266401000853382008-09-18T18:00:00.000-07:002008-09-18T18:00:00.000-07:00Ok, now that just about trumps anything my crappy ...Ok, now that just about trumps anything my crappy parents ever did. I just couldn't believe what I was reading. So, at any point during a child's life the parents can just drop them off and be done with them? Unbelievable. I still can't believe it.Guera!https://www.blogger.com/profile/12616928404421960462noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19220163.post-7028482934254171832008-09-18T13:19:00.000-07:002008-09-18T13:19:00.000-07:00Oh, I'm so sad for those children. I can (personal...Oh, I'm so sad for those children. <BR/><BR/>I can (personally) understand the reasoning behing safe haven for newborns, but for children up to 19??...that's obscene.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19220163.post-32338759368596858812008-09-18T12:58:00.000-07:002008-09-18T12:58:00.000-07:00Our society has so many disturbing issues.Our society has so many disturbing issues.Mariehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15397000420692626687noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19220163.post-83905033695934673922008-09-18T12:33:00.000-07:002008-09-18T12:33:00.000-07:00This is just WILD! Really, I can't imagine how la...This is just WILD! Really, I can't imagine how lawmakers came to this decision. What were they basing their decision on? In an ideal world there would be more support for parents in difficult situations (all kinds of situations, all ages of children, including parents considering making an adoption plan); places for them to seek supportive, non-judgemental help.Unknownhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14165808217283915097noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19220163.post-90826670716751577342008-09-17T14:03:00.000-07:002008-09-17T14:03:00.000-07:00@meg - This is such a tough issue. I'm not 100% o...@<B>meg</B> - This is such a tough issue. I'm not 100% opposed, but I'm also not a huge proponent of safe haven laws, at least not the way a lot of them are currently written. And, sadly, the evidence is shaky as to what extent they've actually reduced infanticide or unsafe abandonment.<BR/><BR/>@lori - Exactly--I don't see how this helps the kids. I get that there are situations so extreme that children can't stay with their families. I really, really do. Yet when a parent is saying they're in one of those situations, I think the community ought to do more than shrug its shoulders and take their word for it. Which is essentially what this law does.Heatherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05737780263679929983noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19220163.post-84719475535107095342008-09-17T13:30:00.000-07:002008-09-17T13:30:00.000-07:00Those poor boys! I'm sure it's incredibly difficu...Those poor boys! I'm sure it's incredibly difficult to parent children with significant behavioral issues but how can we hope that they'll behave any better after losing another set of parents? And how could lawmakers not anticipate this type of issue?Lorihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15410002407855752531noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19220163.post-72158729706978715912008-09-17T13:25:00.000-07:002008-09-17T13:25:00.000-07:00This totally doesn't sit right. What were the lawm...This totally doesn't sit right. What were the lawmakers thinking?! <BR/><BR/>I agree that these laws are important, but there must be a more logical, thought out age limit.Meg Weber Jeskehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08758784154745551790noreply@blogger.com