tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19220163.post4878686327305767871..comments2023-07-28T02:29:08.172-07:00Comments on Production, Not Reproduction | A blog about open adoption: Open Adoption Roundtable #29Heatherhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05737780263679929983noreply@blogger.comBlogger37125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19220163.post-30847488097668153582011-09-27T18:03:42.520-07:002011-09-27T18:03:42.520-07:00My favorite post is one that was unexpected but tr...My favorite post is one that was unexpected but true to my emotions and fears. Getting To Know You http://ttababy.blogspot.com/2011/09/getting-to-know-you.html <br /> I felt free to talk about my fears. I think one of the reasons I'm often defensive and sensitive to adoption questions is because at times they get to my own fears as adoption for us is a complete unknown. I've heard parents say "I wish my baby came with a manual" however at least they knew the approximate date of their babies arrival, and developed personality traits based on their babies activity in the womb. How much of that is projected onto the baby who knows but I'm terrified the baby is going to be placed in my arms and its not going to feel "right."TTABabyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10448579844692674801noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19220163.post-67974235113045622022011-09-26T23:53:54.824-07:002011-09-26T23:53:54.824-07:00because even I still need a reminder of why adopti...because even I still need a reminder of why adoption is so emotional.<br />http://myangelsfromgod.blogspot.com/2010/09/may-14-2007-placement.htmlKatelynhttp://myangelsfromgod.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19220163.post-21676740420938424232011-09-25T19:12:59.858-07:002011-09-25T19:12:59.858-07:00At last! Here's my choice: http://parenthoodpa...At last! Here's my choice: http://parenthoodpath.blogspot.com/2011/09/oar29-accidents-happen.html<br /><br />Thanks again for being the hostess with the most-ess. I look forward to reading all of the other roundtable submissions!Kristinhttp://www.parenthoodpath.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19220163.post-1834690961526480072011-09-24T20:58:06.192-07:002011-09-24T20:58:06.192-07:00It's taken me a long time to get myself to sit...It's taken me a long time to get myself to sit down and go through my posts. Hopefully, I'm not too late!<br /><br />I chose this post because it's a summary of how I felt during our wait for a match and how I felt after bringing our baby home.<br /><br />- Geochick<br /><br />http://geo-chick.blogspot.com/2011/08/all-about-wait-and-how-it-fades-from.htmlAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19220163.post-79927737816027800302011-09-24T07:51:00.555-07:002011-09-24T07:51:00.555-07:00If it's not too late:
http://my--fascinating...If it's not too late: <br /><br />http://my--fascinating--life.blogspot.com/2009/12/mothers-milk.html<br /><br />This is the post I wrote - AGES ago- when I finally let go of caring that my babies weren't breastfed.Claudiahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09352341442556433375noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19220163.post-50136155480659948912011-09-21T09:36:37.271-07:002011-09-21T09:36:37.271-07:00Here is the second post I ever wrote. I love it be...Here is the second post I ever wrote. I love it because I think it shows both the immediate pain after placement and the healing that occured after our first visit. I wanted to write about moving on because I dont know that it is truly possible for any birth mom.<br /><br />http://onemoreday-adoption.blogspot.com/2011/06/moving-on.htmlRedhttp://onemoreday-adoption.blogspot.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19220163.post-23299268072760854022011-09-21T07:09:33.485-07:002011-09-21T07:09:33.485-07:00My post is up...
http://unofficialmom.blogspot.co...My post is up...<br /><br />http://unofficialmom.blogspot.com/2011/09/oar-29-favorite.htmlsarahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10407880075964040578noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19220163.post-45803728679590637772011-09-20T13:11:42.629-07:002011-09-20T13:11:42.629-07:00While my adoption wouldn't be a traditional op...While my adoption wouldn't be a traditional open-adoption and my blog is not an adoption blog I am posting a favorite post of mine from when I blogged for adoption.com<br /><br />http://international.adoptionblogs.com/weblogs/i-now-hate-to-look-at-my-referral-pictur<br /><br /><br />Mandy fouragainsttwo@gmail.com<br /><br />My family blog is FourAgainstTwo.comAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19220163.post-8894997554895280722011-09-20T12:06:41.477-07:002011-09-20T12:06:41.477-07:00Whew. Finally got this done. Thumbs up for the &qu...Whew. Finally got this done. Thumbs up for the "easy" content this time. My brain is foggy with ick. <br /><br />http://thechroniclesofmunchkinland.com/2011/09/20/open-adoption-roundtable-20-open-mic/<br /><br />I hope to be able to jump through others' posts sometime soon. Now back to bed!Jennahttp://thechroniclesofmunchkinland.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19220163.post-74502948117495793302011-09-20T10:00:27.211-07:002011-09-20T10:00:27.211-07:00This should have been an easy one...just go throug...This should have been an easy one...just go through and find my favorite post. Whoa, time, life, and all of that kind of got in the way. I stumbled upon this post written while we were waiting for our second child. It reminded me so much of where we were, how far we have come, and how much further we have to go. Open adoption is an ever evolving process and I hope anyone involved in any situation continues to have hope and never gives up when things are not going as they thought they should be. This post made me cry--I'm sure there's another one I love more, but this was the start of my foundation. http://simpleperfectlife.blogspot.com/2008/05/my-wish-for-you.htmljodilee0123https://www.blogger.com/profile/10169149989434828297noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19220163.post-78031653120137868882011-09-18T06:06:52.839-07:002011-09-18T06:06:52.839-07:00This post is about making a baby quilt ... a huge ...This post is about making a baby quilt ... a huge leap of faith for me during the wait. http://jasonandamyadopt.blogspot.com/2011/04/quilting-hope-baby-blanket-style.htmlAmyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03740847681453723883noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19220163.post-58134906879261432412011-09-16T23:09:28.863-07:002011-09-16T23:09:28.863-07:00http://musingmonika.blogspot.com/2011/08/rant.html...http://musingmonika.blogspot.com/2011/08/rant.html<br /><br />This one's my current favorite because it speaks to something that I've been dealing with a lot lately - adoption hatred from specific birth mothers who have had bad experiences trying to taint adoption as a whole.Monikahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09598390010327967653noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19220163.post-72078402765320207712011-09-16T15:02:48.956-07:002011-09-16T15:02:48.956-07:00http://anotherversionofmother.com/2011/09/03/an-op...http://anotherversionofmother.com/2011/09/03/an-open-letter-regarding-abandonment/<br /><br /><br />I wrote this blog post recently in dealing with someone who didn't understand the process that goes into making a decision to become a birthparent. <br /><br />DanielleAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19220163.post-53055434253370289862011-09-16T14:31:19.978-07:002011-09-16T14:31:19.978-07:00http://myminivanrocks.wordpress.com/2010/03/09/evo...http://myminivanrocks.wordpress.com/2010/03/09/evolving-opinions-on-open-adoption/<br /><br />When we first adopted Zoe from Vietnam, birth parents were scary to us. What we have finally realized in the past few years is that adoption is not about US and what WE are comfortable with. Adoption is about our CHILDREN and what is best for THEM. We now believe that what is best for THEM is to have contact with their birthfamilies, or at least that they have the OPTION to have contact with their birthfamilies.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19220163.post-72194940706264272402011-09-16T10:06:16.208-07:002011-09-16T10:06:16.208-07:00My previous and current adoption journey have both...My previous and current adoption journey have both coincided with a pregnant sister. I recently wrote about my feelings on this - the pain of infertility and being excited to adopt at the same time. This topic has touched a lot of people - I have gotten a lot of comments from strangers thanking me for talking about it. <br /><br />It's called "Going Toe-to-Toe with Pregnant Relatives."<br /><br />http://pocketfullofprose.blogspot.com/2011/09/going-toe-to-toe-with-pregnant.htmlLara Zierke https://www.blogger.com/profile/14678809883294746934noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19220163.post-15121761561695756052011-09-16T07:46:00.161-07:002011-09-16T07:46:00.161-07:00Not so much adoption related, but I really enjoyed...Not so much adoption related, but I really enjoyed writing this post: A and I get kicked out of Jcrew<br /><br />http://american-family.org/2005/04/23/a-i-get-kicked-out-of-jcrew/American Familyhttp://www.american-family.orgnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19220163.post-25364712035128070352011-09-16T06:45:54.608-07:002011-09-16T06:45:54.608-07:00I share this post because I think it captures the ...I share this post because I think it captures the uncertainty, the elasticity of expectations, and the loss that often come with all the good that adoption brings: <a href="http://regularmidwesterners.com/2011/03/03/todays-adoption-update/" rel="nofollow">http://regularmidwesterners.com/2011/03/03/todays-adoption-update/</a>Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19220163.post-31586577805479017762011-09-15T22:29:37.693-07:002011-09-15T22:29:37.693-07:00my favorite post is when i finally kind of came to...my favorite post is when i finally kind of came to terms with my entire story up until that point. this was before we even knew we would be adopting. just trying to get through life day by day. <br /><br />http://www.myiwrite.com/2009/09/i-am-changing-less-and-less-asleep_23.htmlkennahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03706789932352969204noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19220163.post-70208392377464280432011-09-15T18:40:38.513-07:002011-09-15T18:40:38.513-07:00My favorite post on my blog isn't about adopti...My favorite post on my blog isn't about adoption, it's about the ridiculous women-can't-win expectations of our culture. <br /><br />http://twowomenblogging.blogspot.com/2007/05/in-which-i-throw-my-daughter-to-wolves.htmlJayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15886225476339783827noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19220163.post-59936157353928699262011-09-15T17:38:29.819-07:002011-09-15T17:38:29.819-07:00My blog since adopting only has a few posts so not...My blog since adopting only has a few posts so not much to choose from yet, but so far my fave would be <br /><br />Adversity is like a strong wind...<br /><br />http://miraclestaketime.wordpress.com/2011/09/04/adversity-is-like-a-strong-wind-it-tears-away-from-us-all-but-the-things-that-cannot-be-torn-so-that-we-see-ourselves-as-we-really-are-arthur-golden-memoirs-of-a-geisha/Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19220163.post-82664653840333936272011-09-15T17:14:00.518-07:002011-09-15T17:14:00.518-07:00Love Is Not A Pie: http://rebecca-hawkes.blogspot....Love Is Not A Pie: http://rebecca-hawkes.blogspot.com/2011/07/love-is-not-pie.html<br /><br />This was one of the first blog posts I ever wrote. I didn't even have my own blog yet; I posted it originally on BlogHer. When I did set up my own blog, I ended up using the title of this post as the title of the whole blog. It's still a favorite post of mine because it sums up so much about my philosophy ... about open adoption and life.Rebecca Hawkeshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10736626549316682171noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19220163.post-12404560987788550242011-09-15T15:56:33.000-07:002011-09-15T15:56:33.000-07:00here's mine ....http://landtstauffer.blogspot....here's mine ....http://landtstauffer.blogspot.com/2009/11/thanksgiving-thngks-gvng.htmlMommySquaredhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07394551261768566946noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19220163.post-4868798131442492402011-09-15T15:46:49.855-07:002011-09-15T15:46:49.855-07:00Here is one of my favorites: "Living in a Gl...Here is one of my favorites: "Living in a Glass House-Being Open in Our Open Adoption Journey"<br /><br />http://jimandamyhopingtoadopt.blogspot.com/2011/04/living-in-glass-house-being-open-in-our.htmlLittle Blessingshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11741060140748610490noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19220163.post-21216221858154814692011-09-15T11:38:01.967-07:002011-09-15T11:38:01.967-07:00http://fromemptywombtooverflowingheart.blogspot.co...http://fromemptywombtooverflowingheart.blogspot.com/2011/09/lets-get-real.html<br /><br />Let's get "real"! <br /><br />"How will yo feel when your daughter knows who her "real" mom is?"<br /><br />Well, let me tell you...Kellyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01791103718672105390noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19220163.post-62519349076120440122011-09-15T09:36:24.051-07:002011-09-15T09:36:24.051-07:00I just recently started a blog about my open adopt...I just recently started a blog about my open adoption journey. I am a birthmother as of this May 22, 2011. I only have about 5 posts to pick from! I guess this is my favorite so far:<br />http://mygapeach.wordpress.com/2011/09/11/this-is-perfect-for-when-i-cant-sleep/<br />Grateful for this open adoption community! Thanks for checking out my blog :).Holly-birthmotherhttp://mygapeach.wordpress.com/noreply@blogger.com