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I commented before, but I kind of have another ide...

2012-01-27T22:57:16.819-08:00

I commented before, but I kind of have another idea.
What do you think about first(birth) GRAND parents, their POV, the feelings first(birth)parents have towards them, etc.
Adoption usually occurs because of some kind of family social imbalance, someone has more 'power' someone has less, some decisions are made on behalf of someone, or someone makes decisions that are not pleasing to someone else.

A couple examples
A young expectant mother is convinced by her mom, or parents/family to make an adoption plan for her unborn child.
Or
An expectant mother makes an adoption plan for her child against the wishes of either her own mother or the natural fathers family, etc

I am not sure if this was done before, but it's been on my mind as I have read some things about first(birth)grandparents grieving the loss of grandchildren placed in adoption.
Also because I have been reading much about many first(birth)moms(possibly dads) feeling hurt by the rejection of their placed children as grandchildren.
I also experience this, I am a first mom and my mom is quite apathetic about my placed son while she is quite enamored with my nephew.
It bothers me. I want to know what others have thought and felt about this kind of thing.

Do you have any regrets? If so, would you really d...

2012-01-23T22:17:52.942-08:00

Do you have any regrets? If so, would you really do things differently?

Maybe something about putting yourself in someone else's shoes, trying to see adoption from other people's perspectives?

I don't know if it's been done before but ...

2012-01-21T00:04:38.752-08:00

I don't know if it's been done before but I think a good topic would be subsequent siblings, either by first family or adoptive family, and their effect on the adopted ones.

Also, stereotypes and how people get them wrong much of the time.

That definitely gives me some good ideas to wor...

2012-01-20T15:44:59.636-08:00
That definitely gives me some good ideas to work with--thank you!

How about dealing with outside commentary from tho...

2012-01-20T12:47:01.091-08:00
How about dealing with outside commentary from those who are not involved in adoption? I know my son's adoptive mom dealt with comments like, "So which one is yours?" etc. As a birthmother, I've dealt with a plethora of ignorant comments.

You could also do one about talking to your family about adoption- how did you tell your children about how adoption is in their lives? Or how do you plan to tell them in the future?

I'm sure those are terribly worded, but I hope the point got across! :)