tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19220163.post4439152471419044754..comments2023-07-28T02:29:08.172-07:00Comments on Production, Not Reproduction | A blog about open adoption: Open Adoption Roundtable #21Heatherhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05737780263679929983noreply@blogger.comBlogger9125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19220163.post-43597840873005201452010-12-16T09:08:10.603-08:002010-12-16T09:08:10.603-08:00I am a happy happy adoptive father of an 8 month o...I am a happy happy adoptive father of an 8 month old boy. We adopted our son .3/26/2010. I have just started a blog to answer real questions and create a place to share what we did and how we did it. <br />http://mindfuladoption.blogspot.com/Mindful Adoptionhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18302082156512332762noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19220163.post-78686038733948973412010-12-10T11:03:14.547-08:002010-12-10T11:03:14.547-08:00Here's mine... http://mama2roo.wordpress.com/2...Here's mine... http://mama2roo.wordpress.com/2010/12/11/open-adoption-round-table-21-holiday-traditions/mama2roohttp://mama2roo.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19220163.post-26273105166502847762010-12-08T17:05:28.809-08:002010-12-08T17:05:28.809-08:00I'm up! http://susiebook.wordpress.com/2010/12...I'm up! http://susiebook.wordpress.com/2010/12/08/oart-21-the-most-wonderful-time/Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19220163.post-75000709748439639062010-12-07T11:46:52.234-08:002010-12-07T11:46:52.234-08:00Here's my post: http://bumbersbumblings.blogsp...Here's my post: http://bumbersbumblings.blogspot.com/2010/12/open-adoption-roundtable.htmlBumbersBumblingshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15804403640550027122noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19220163.post-15580621826599811992010-12-06T22:00:12.581-08:002010-12-06T22:00:12.581-08:00This is very interesting to me today especially be...This is very interesting to me today especially because today I got the christmas picture in the mail. The one of my son and his adoptive family.<br />Just the picture, no note or letter. I am happy about the picture, although I don't get why they are so into making every family picture a sepia or black and white kind of picture, with colourful borders and such, but still.<br />It always makes me think they are trying to make my son stand out less somehow.<br />Last year there was a nice letter, it just feels like a regression has happened because there was no letter with this picture. <br />Holidays are very hard because I know that I will never be a real part of my son christmas experience, but I know he will be in my city sometime this month, but I will not see him.<br />Which is mostly OK, because I did see him in October. Also I know that I will see pictures of the whole christmas thing as done by his adoptive family on FB. <br />The thing is that because I am a birthmom, Christmas will always be emotional torture now.<br />Being that I wish I could be with my son, but I know my presence would likely ruin everything. Not that I would ever even have the chance to particpate in his life in that way.<br />Any other average non-special day, I could probably talk about the pictures and my worries about whether or not the present I send to my son is the 'right' one or any other such things that I usually try and talk about to some of my family. No, at Christmas I have to pretend that I do not have a son. I cannot talk about him or what I am feeling or thinking, because it will 'ruin' the day for everyone else.<br /><br />Christmas is a time when my feelings of loss in reguards to my son are heightened. When my worries over what his adoptive parents really think of me are soul-crushing because they really don't let me know what they think about anything most of the time. Although the vague FB status posts about being excited for christmas and stuff are encouraging. <br />As is with any other really 'special' time, everyone really excludes me from all the fun. <br />My family has done it for years, and so now my sons adoptive family does it too.<br />Christmas is hard. I try to be a good as I can, do everything in my power to show others I care, but I never really know if they notice that I care. Maybe I shouldn't care if they notice that I care. Why do I care about them knowing I care so much? Maybe I am just being selfish.<br /> Yeah, that it.<br /><br />CindyAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19220163.post-80426114708818949822010-12-06T20:36:32.924-08:002010-12-06T20:36:32.924-08:00DS was born at the beginning of January, so for me...DS was born at the beginning of January, so for me, this is a time of year that I often think 'this time, x years ago...' (we were matched just before Thanksgiving, so it's quite a meaningful time of year for me, anyway). I also tend to think of his birthmom a lot, especially when I get to enjoy sharing all the fun holiday activities with him. I try to let her know that we are remembering her at christmas and his birthday.Ellyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18103745692859729289noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19220163.post-55260116216653685382010-12-05T18:53:27.409-08:002010-12-05T18:53:27.409-08:00http://a-cat-bythetail.blogspot.com/2010/12/open-a...http://a-cat-bythetail.blogspot.com/2010/12/open-adoption-roundtable-21.htmlA Life Being Livedhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11702473000464603292noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19220163.post-6661126211666104502010-12-05T16:03:07.167-08:002010-12-05T16:03:07.167-08:00http://racilous.wordpress.com/2010/12/04/open-adop...http://racilous.wordpress.com/2010/12/04/open-adoption-21/Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19220163.post-82204085725465845422010-12-05T10:47:48.585-08:002010-12-05T10:47:48.585-08:00http://virtualworldtourjess.blogspot.com/2010/12/o...http://virtualworldtourjess.blogspot.com/2010/12/open-adoption-round-table-21-holidays.htmlJesshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05181924375187173030noreply@blogger.com