tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19220163.post4192548582953884544..comments2010-09-02T19:05:44.395-07:00Heather Schadehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17535502003333457420noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19220163.post-63807193509122808912010-09-02T19:05:44.395-07:002010-09-02T19:05:44.395-07:00I certainly know what you mean, I too think, analysis, try to anticipate and react before I need to. This can get exhausting and misdirected sometimes as you said, especially if other people are just being themselves too. I can't change the lack of interaction with our son's birthfather, but I can do what I promised, what I know to be right. The one response at the 10th month out of 17 months was something that we wouldn't have had if I didn't send those e-mails out into the air in the first place. Birth mom we text, e-mail or talk every week, but visits are more difficult to get arranged and we live only an hour away. In many ways she subtly reminds me that she chose us to be his parents and live in our world and so super frequency isn't something she needs or wants. So we click along and put invites out every 6 weeks or so. Arms wide open. But when you look at your children you love so much and see the parts that come from their first/birth parents it is hard for your heart to not overflow with love for them to and want to keep them close as well. It is our open hearts why they chose us and ability decision make and plan. It also can be the thing that makes us so different it puts space as well. Breathe! I'm in Indiana deep breathin' with ya.Lisa T.http://www.blogger.com/profile/07458511810640542071noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19220163.post-22257932940932523042010-01-29T08:09:39.860-08:002010-01-29T08:09:39.860-08:00mmm...i love this analogy. i too often pull out the roots to look at and perhaps shake a bit of the dirt off of but i know that this isn't always best. sometimes taking relationships at face value is important too.Lavonnehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15570143383826108862noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19220163.post-18684013189815004302010-01-26T22:23:53.650-08:002010-01-26T22:23:53.650-08:00this is a lovely post. I remember the concept you wrote about and I think it's true. things need room to breathe and grow. or not. sometimes we can just do our part and see what happens next.lunahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15455301696832647867noreply@blogger.com