tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19220163.post3738290593660816862..comments2023-07-28T02:29:08.172-07:00Comments on Production, Not Reproduction | A blog about open adoption: TokensHeatherhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05737780263679929983noreply@blogger.comBlogger12125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19220163.post-53038852449071508582011-06-25T20:27:02.715-07:002011-06-25T20:27:02.715-07:00Me too ... Squeaker's empty baby book guilts m...Me too ... Squeaker's empty baby book guilts me from a shelf (although I do have a folder stuffed with things to put in it) and haven't gotten farther than thinking about a life book. Sigh ...Rebeccahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03110795754864023339noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19220163.post-74764412529281468812011-06-15T10:18:53.673-07:002011-06-15T10:18:53.673-07:00I think we may have something in the works to help...<i>I think we may have something in the works to help us get these done. (Especially procrastinators like me.) Stay tuned!</i>Heatherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05737780263679929983noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19220163.post-26059075415961379082011-06-14T23:54:37.527-07:002011-06-14T23:54:37.527-07:00I created a book for baby Jaye but I'm not sur...I created a book for baby Jaye but I'm not sure that it is really a true lifebook. it doesn't start at her birth, but rather when we first cultivated a relationship with her birthmom. it documents all of her birth family that we've met and her first year of life. it has a longer story up front but it's lacking more age-appropriate text. <br /><br />I love this book, but will probably have to create another shorter one that tells the story of her birth and placement better with words rather than mostly images.lunahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15455301696832647867noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19220163.post-83774355544436811782011-06-14T12:22:11.501-07:002011-06-14T12:22:11.501-07:00Great post. I recently realized ( had it pointed o...Great post. I recently realized ( had it pointed out to me) that we need to create a book for Theo in particular just to start the conversation with him about his adoption. I totally get now why it's SO important.harriet glynnhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17223388139583386938noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19220163.post-19863177955895833532011-06-14T11:43:35.690-07:002011-06-14T11:43:35.690-07:00Creating D's life book is on my summer To Do l...Creating D's life book is on my summer To Do list too!<br /><br />Part of my struggle is knowing when it should "end," and that has implications for format. So, I'm very interested in learning from others' experiences and suggestions!Kristinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18148373432867881131noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19220163.post-42004616298351446492011-06-14T10:05:36.270-07:002011-06-14T10:05:36.270-07:00Thanks for this! I got up to Roo's 3 month ma...Thanks for this! I got up to Roo's 3 month mark on his lifebook. Mommy FAIL!<br /><br />I think its terribly important, and thank you for putting words to the "why" of that.mama2roohttp://mama2roo.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19220163.post-32999022686616163332011-06-14T05:30:55.598-07:002011-06-14T05:30:55.598-07:00I was also putting off finishing L's lifebook....I was also putting off finishing L's lifebook. I just felt I couldn't do it while we were so close to finding her family because I knew the story we had wasn't true. Now that we found them, the lifebook would need to be entirely different than those from China and I don't know where to start. I guess this summer I should just do it already.AmericanFamilyhttp://american-family.orgnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19220163.post-42950283090328771192011-06-14T02:48:59.239-07:002011-06-14T02:48:59.239-07:00@Elly - "And reminded me of the value of putt...<i>@<b>Elly</b> - "And reminded me of the value of putting pen to paper (or fingers to keyboard and printer)."<br /><br />I was thinking about this, too. I had a weekly phone call with my parents for over a decade, before we moved back to the same town. It was great for our relationship, but what remains of those calls, you know?</i>Heatherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05737780263679929983noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19220163.post-90279359494154314212011-06-13T20:12:50.064-07:002011-06-13T20:12:50.064-07:00I keep almost finishing the little man's lifeb...I keep almost finishing the little man's lifebook. Maybe we do need a lifebook challenge for mutual encouragement.<br /><br />On the subject of letters. I used to write to my maternal grandmother. She wasn't a person who hung onto material things, but apparently she kept all the letters. I was really touched by that. And reminded me of the value of putting pen to paper (or fingers to keyboard and printer).Ellyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18103745692859729289noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19220163.post-222120758615439762011-06-13T19:41:44.811-07:002011-06-13T19:41:44.811-07:00My kids both have life books, but they are mostly ...My kids both have life books, but they are mostly empty. Their foster family was much better about it than we are.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19220163.post-48104380525510075192011-06-13T18:44:47.270-07:002011-06-13T18:44:47.270-07:00@KatjaMichelle - We should hold each other account...<i>@<b>KatjaMichelle</b> - We should hold each other accountable...</i>Heatherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05737780263679929983noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19220163.post-5052417046539082352011-06-13T18:38:53.254-07:002011-06-13T18:38:53.254-07:00"He has relationships with his first family, ..."He has relationships with his first family, I told myself. He has the actual people and the stories we already tell him. He doesn't need a book."<br /><br />I've been stuck in this thinking as well. For years J has asked me to put in writing some family history for Kidlet. and for years I've been slacking (dude it's hard!) But you're right I need to finish the book I started 5 years ago (and conceptualized 5 years before that) I will do it little by little but I won't let the emotion stall me indefinately.KatjaMichellehttp://therapyisexpensive.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.com