tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19220163.post3173189499392681984..comments2023-07-28T02:29:08.172-07:00Comments on Production, Not Reproduction | A blog about open adoption: Feeling Good After a VisitHeatherhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05737780263679929983noreply@blogger.comBlogger14125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19220163.post-40901830733509114162008-06-07T18:00:00.000-07:002008-06-07T18:00:00.000-07:00I am glad to hear your adoptoin is going so well.I am glad to hear your adoptoin is going so well.Rachelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09708675281321049193noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19220163.post-31829440078730662102008-06-04T08:33:00.000-07:002008-06-04T08:33:00.000-07:00I think good professional support is so important ...I think good professional support is so important after placement. I haven't experienced open adoption but I have adopted children after infancy. I know the bonding and attachment period would have been a much less lonely and frightening time if we had had better support.<BR/><BR/>I just found your blog (through your comment to me) and I'm very happy to 'meet' you. I'm looking forward to learning more about your family and your experiences with open adoption. I sincerely wish that were an option for my daughter (to know her birth family) and at the same time there is a quiet relief that it isn't possible.anymommyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17870033179328734404noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19220163.post-21935913436693128402008-06-03T21:20:00.000-07:002008-06-03T21:20:00.000-07:00@katedaphne - I think many of us had a hard time e...@<B>katedaphne</B> - I think many of us had a hard time envisioning ourselves in open adoptions. I often tell people that open adoption can look confusing and strange from the outside, but just makes a lot of sense once you're on the inside. Perhaps that is true for all adoption in some respects.<BR/><BR/>Best wishes for your IF treatments. Hope to see you back here soon. :)Heatherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05737780263679929983noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19220163.post-55978418415498896262008-06-03T19:27:00.000-07:002008-06-03T19:27:00.000-07:00Here from NCLM. I enjoy reading about your open ad...Here from NCLM. I enjoy reading about your open adoption. I am not ready for adoption, tho my IF treatments haven't been going so well, and I have a really hard time envisioning open adoption in my life. So it is very helpful to see others as they live it. Thanks for sharing, I'll be back!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19220163.post-1217115761214227762008-06-03T13:35:00.000-07:002008-06-03T13:35:00.000-07:00I'm happy that everything is going smoothly for yo...I'm happy that everything is going smoothly for you.starsgobluehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12715616548893153481noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19220163.post-31202516533275048442008-06-03T12:57:00.000-07:002008-06-03T12:57:00.000-07:00I can't imagine how difficult it is for both you a...I can't imagine how difficult it is for both you and Ms B - trying to make it through the parallels. I never thought of it this way.<BR/><BR/>I hope your relationship continues to grow!Jamiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11509124764568535676noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19220163.post-76307965952579118362008-06-02T21:22:00.000-07:002008-06-02T21:22:00.000-07:00Also couldn't see the pics, but it sounds like you...Also couldn't see the pics, but it sounds like you have a really great open adoption scenario. I'm sure Firefly and Puppy are precious!<BR/><BR/>(via NCLM).Bustedhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09926427330808873296noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19220163.post-88870472217781139732008-06-02T17:55:00.000-07:002008-06-02T17:55:00.000-07:00Wow I can not believe they sent Ms B all of those ...Wow I can not believe they sent Ms B all of those things! I think that would have seriously wrecked me right after I 1st placed my daughter. Very sad. :(Mehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12441753122712244730noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19220163.post-28823193692958764972008-06-02T17:18:00.000-07:002008-06-02T17:18:00.000-07:00couldn't see the pics either - sounds like things ...couldn't see the pics either - sounds like things are going greatMama Bearhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04459176957674069370noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19220163.post-80713186630882527982008-06-01T23:37:00.000-07:002008-06-01T23:37:00.000-07:00@jjandfive - It's been both, although Ms B has mor...@<B>jjandfive</B> - It's been both, although Ms B has more input into the spacing right now (I think that's probably going to be true for this first year). The first one she initiated. She wasn't sure how long she'd need post-placement, so she wanted to control the timing. The second neither T or I can remember who initiated (which is either a sign of our zen-ness at the moment or our lame-ness). The third was initiated by me; I was going to be in her town and we got together for coffee. At that time, we talked a little about Mother's Day and decided we'd get together at the end of the month instead (this visit). It's been pretty organic so far.<BR/><BR/>As far as the post-placement support goes, I think I'll take it to a new post. :)Heatherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05737780263679929983noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19220163.post-50826113612529837562008-06-01T21:16:00.000-07:002008-06-01T21:16:00.000-07:00Just curious, which of you initiates visits? We ha...Just curious, which of you initiates visits? We have visits about once a month, sometimes a bit more time in between... both initiating.<BR/>I, too, want to hear more about your agency's care for Ms. B. Sounds great...JJandFivehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01090990463987107641noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19220163.post-16614384517860953362008-06-01T13:07:00.000-07:002008-06-01T13:07:00.000-07:00Oh Heather I'm glad you are continuing to grow the...Oh Heather I'm glad you are continuing to grow the relnship with Ms B. It does my heart good to hear of another open relationship unfolding positively. <BR/><BR/>Blessings to all of you!Tammyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18045769392036053038noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19220163.post-57877091347391436222008-06-01T06:37:00.000-07:002008-06-01T06:37:00.000-07:00Can you talk some about the support the agency off...Can you talk some about the support the agency offers for first parents? I'd love to hear more about that!!Dawnhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04164833674841541784noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19220163.post-14444002146815718002008-06-01T05:08:00.000-07:002008-06-01T05:08:00.000-07:00I wasn't authorised to view the pics, sadly, (here...I wasn't authorised to view the pics, sadly, (here from NCLM) but I bet they are beautiful. I'm gald you had a great visit and that open adoption has been a good thing for you. I am also sorry I missed the piece you took down. Sounded like something really special!Panamahathttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10248512242594265755noreply@blogger.com