tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19220163.post2950261837183117365..comments2023-07-28T02:29:08.172-07:00Comments on Production, Not Reproduction | A blog about open adoption: The In-between TimeHeatherhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05737780263679929983noreply@blogger.comBlogger11125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19220163.post-4649911142321780992008-02-04T10:41:00.000-08:002008-02-04T10:41:00.000-08:00Whatever is happening on your end, I'm thinking of...Whatever is happening on your end, I'm thinking of you today.Clementinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15009377987342028425noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19220163.post-65555453026773957372008-02-03T06:47:00.000-08:002008-02-03T06:47:00.000-08:00God Bless you all and bring a healthy, easy delive...God Bless you all and bring a healthy, easy delivery. There is nothing like this waiting time.Andromeda Jazmonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12355192738014962965noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19220163.post-32586575473548059582008-02-01T23:11:00.000-08:002008-02-01T23:11:00.000-08:00Oh I can so relate to your post. I'm in the waiti...Oh I can so relate to your post. I'm in the waiting and overlapping stage myself. It's an odd place to be. Exciting and terrifying at the same time. Best wishes to you all!Clickin Mama Jhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13128472861303140309noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19220163.post-82593599197777473942008-02-01T07:17:00.000-08:002008-02-01T07:17:00.000-08:00I know exactly what you mean. We just entered the ...I know exactly what you mean. We just entered the post-match/pre-baby time this week and already I feel awful. It's a tough emotional line to walk realizing that you are very, very excited to have your daughter on the way, but you are also aware that she’s not your daughter yet, and she might never be.<BR/><BR/>We are meeting the mom who has chosen us today for the first time and I am an absolute ball of nerves. I just keep hoping it will go well and that I won’t accidentally say anything stupid. I actually got my hair cut and dyed for the occasion (as if she will be thinking, “Look at her beautiful hair! I bet she would be a great mom!”).Shawn and Lisahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11292236730025677662noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19220163.post-65124119408208205982008-01-31T12:07:00.000-08:002008-01-31T12:07:00.000-08:00I've been completely submerged in moving-overseas ...I've been completely submerged in moving-overseas mode that I just today realized "Heather!" She might have a baby already!<BR/><BR/>I agree that this waiting time, reguardless of the length, is so difficult...complex...emotional. On one hand you want to give yourself completely to being this child's mother, you don't want to hold back your affection if it is, indeed, going to be your child. At the same time, it is necessary to do so, reserving attachment for the time when the baby actually is yours. <BR/><BR/>I think that I didn't really allow myself to start bonding with our son until after we had finished inter-state stuff and returned back home with him. Until then I was taking care of him, but not really claiming him. It still felt like his first mother's time.<BR/><BR/>Thinking back I wish I had opened my heart more completely, but I just didn't know how. I think I'll know better next time. Anyway, all that to say this time is HARD and I'm thinking of you.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19220163.post-31985838518657392092008-01-31T10:20:00.000-08:002008-01-31T10:20:00.000-08:00First of all, happy birthday to you! I hope you'r...First of all, happy birthday to you! I hope you're enjoying your special day.<BR/><BR/>Second, your post makes me think back to the time when Hester was born--it was such a swirl of emotions for me. Although Ariana and Bobby wanted us in the labor and delivery room so that we might start to bond with Hester right away, I was *very* aware that she was their precious baby, not ours. I remember kissing her sweet little head and not daring to call myself her Mama, only telling her that I loved her with all my heart. It wasn't until Hester was placed with us that I let myself start thinking, "This is my daughter." <BR/><BR/>My thoughts are with you andyour family, and with this precious little girl and her family.Clementinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15009377987342028425noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19220163.post-67828149672617273452008-01-31T10:03:00.000-08:002008-01-31T10:03:00.000-08:00Its such a careful dance. Like holding your breat...Its such a careful dance. Like holding your breath almost for what seems an enternity. The what ifs abound. While doing exactly what you said...preparing to step aside if you need to. Preparing to think that the preparations you made weren't actually for THIS particular baby after all. Preparing preparing. <BR/><BR/>Hang in there.Kathy's Kornerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10736616768905799131noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19220163.post-21571132382499531312008-01-31T10:00:00.000-08:002008-01-31T10:00:00.000-08:00oh my.....the waiting....and wondering. YOu are a...oh my.....the waiting....and wondering. YOu are a strong woman. I admire you for keeping things in perspective as much as you possibly can.Corey~living and lovinghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05719661119360487023noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19220163.post-29215512123026363692008-01-31T08:38:00.000-08:002008-01-31T08:38:00.000-08:00I'm not sure why this post brought me to tears exc...I'm not sure why this post brought me to tears except it did. I was blessed in one way as in both our experiences, the in-between was fairly short. With Bug, it really was 48 hours (although we though it would be about 3 weeks) so we barely had a chance to breathe and think and prepare. With Si, it was a couple weeks (potentially four) so even then, we didn't have that long, but it was hard nevertheless. <BR/><BR/>This is the unique experience, the in-between, for those waiting to adopt, this living between the now and the not yet, the reality on one side, the hope on the other and the potential for just about anything in the middle. And that "just about anything" contains a multi-faceted bunch of things, including pure grief and sadness on one hand, and joy and hope on the other, and knowing all that is coming (in the second time around anyway...) makes it so very hard too. <BR/><BR/>And this is especially if you are living as you are, and as we did, with a heart prepared to parent and love a child, but prepared equally as much to do as you said, step aside if another decision is made. All of you... including Ms B and her baby are in my prayers right now. <BR/><BR/>Many blessings...Tammyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18045769392036053038noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19220163.post-8195272982082717942008-01-31T06:38:00.000-08:002008-01-31T06:38:00.000-08:00Red and white bedding? Lovely!Red and white bedding? Lovely!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19220163.post-2114067481803724702008-01-31T06:16:00.000-08:002008-01-31T06:16:00.000-08:00Really thinking about you right now. When do you ...Really thinking about you right now. When do you anticipate the baby to be born?<BR/><BR/>Sending blessings to Baby B and her family!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com