tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19220163.post2664264808301328082..comments2007-07-24T17:21:56.723-07:00Heather Schadehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17535502003333457420noreply@blogger.comBlogger9125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19220163.post-67862559919212938872007-07-24T17:21:00.000-07:002007-07-24T17:21:00.000-07:00It was cute when my then three-year-old asked me to make her a baby brother. It's sad to think that an adult would think I would. I can't say I'm surprised though. The majority of my friends and family equated placing with my daughter with not having any feelings about her.Poor_Statuehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00912244713143186904noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19220163.post-72529300758122438822007-07-17T16:17:00.000-07:002007-07-17T16:17:00.000-07:00Oh wow. Yikes.justenjoyhim/judyhttp://justenjoyhim.wordpress.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19220163.post-29784176443911847522007-07-17T14:56:00.000-07:002007-07-17T14:56:00.000-07:00Yikes. That's ... ouch.Jennahttp://www.thechroniclesofmunchkinland.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19220163.post-47402997124238569652007-07-17T12:46:00.000-07:002007-07-17T12:46:00.000-07:00WHY.w.h.y.why.why.why is it that when you adopt a child people automatically feel comfortable to make atrocious comments like this?!?<BR/><BR/>My OWN parents, for God's sake, have had moments of verbally wishing Arthur and Crettie would "accidentally" get pregnant again so Ebaby could have a sibling.<BR/><BR/>My.OWN.FREAKING.PARENTS.<BR/><BR/>P.A.R.E.N.T.S!<BR/><BR/>Now, this happened several months ago and remembering the conversation has been enough to send me into a lather.<BR/><BR/>How can people be so selfish and clueless?<BR/><BR/>I'm sure my screaming and losing my mind on my father didn't help to get my point across as well as a succinctly-worded explanation that he was grossly disrespecting our daughter's parents, but the likelihood of him GETTING IT is close to nil anyway.<BR/><BR/>So yeah, the next time I see Arthur and Crettie I'm just gonna ask 'em if they can do the nasty for us a few more times until they manage to wreck some more havoc upon their lives so our family can become more complete.<BR/><BR/>*barfs*Going Back to Square Onehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02472261243663429646noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19220163.post-31965713988537500292007-07-16T17:02:00.000-07:002007-07-16T17:02:00.000-07:00Exactly, Tammy. I joked about it, but I do hate that anyone would suggest K go through that again, or think that we would want or expect her to. And the assumption that K would automatically place her next child is incredibly frustrating--even moreso to her than to me.<BR/><BR/>I think that efforts over the past couple of decades to cast adoption in a more positive light have inadvertently created the idea that relinquishment can also be a positive experience. Like you said, there is a short-sightedness about the pain.Heather.PNRhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05737780263679929983noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19220163.post-50868105314793313592007-07-16T15:59:00.000-07:002007-07-16T15:59:00.000-07:00Good grief... I did recently have someone ask me if I hoped that K(Bug's Mom) would get pg again so we could have another baby in our family. Yeah, that is how it works. I could have taken my response in so many directions, but I chose a gentle, "no, I wouldn't wish having to make the hard decision about placing a child in another home once, much less more than that". It really saddens me that so many are so short-sighted about the pain that is a part of adoption.Tammyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18045769392036053038noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19220163.post-16153928418012338322007-07-16T07:25:00.000-07:002007-07-16T07:25:00.000-07:00crap, I could have avoided all the drama with Punky had I known that the queen was just sitting around waiting for our next order. Glad to know her uterus is always ready for us to use!Erinhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11942415229259955664noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19220163.post-34467124758800561252007-07-15T21:39:00.000-07:002007-07-15T21:39:00.000-07:00Her response was along the lines of, "What the hell? Do you know anything about adoption?" K has no problem setting people straight in regards to Puppy's adoption. It's one of the things I really appreciate about her. She and I had a good laugh about this--another thing I appreciate about her. :)Heather.PNRhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05737780263679929983noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19220163.post-65582952762279816582007-07-15T21:28:00.000-07:002007-07-15T21:28:00.000-07:00"Um, yeah, I'll take a baby girl with a side order of ..."<BR/><BR/>Just goes to show how huge the education deficit is in regard to adoption. How did K respond to this friend of hers?BlessedWithDaughtershttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16229463196254569431noreply@blogger.com