tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19220163.post1528760987555099768..comments2023-07-28T02:29:08.172-07:00Comments on Production, Not Reproduction | A blog about open adoption: A Weekend With BethHeatherhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05737780263679929983noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19220163.post-3170595459120275222009-12-22T14:03:01.261-08:002009-12-22T14:03:01.261-08:00Do you like having these visit weekends, or would ...Do you like having these visit weekends, or would you rather be able to have an afternoon visit more frequently? It sounds like you had a good weekend, but it's hard for me to imagine being "on" for a few days like that--I'm worn out after a day trip. <br /><br />Your kids are adorable! Happy holidays to you all.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19220163.post-47224597659209254582009-12-21T08:35:10.941-08:002009-12-21T08:35:10.941-08:00Once again, thanks for your honesty in regards to ...Once again, thanks for your honesty in regards to these visits! And the pictures are too cute!Rachie317https://www.blogger.com/profile/14646338773104987972noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19220163.post-19511875031009969942009-12-21T05:36:31.644-08:002009-12-21T05:36:31.644-08:00I'm glad things went well!
It does make sense...I'm glad things went well!<br /><br />It does make sense that the more open someone is about how things are going, the easier it is to cope and communicate. You aren't spending time wondering what the other person is thinking or going through - even if it's not pretty, it's a starting point. When we don't know for sure what's going on our minds project our fears and hopes into how we perceive the other person. Many times it's not even true, but it does influence our interactions. <br /><br />I've found with our own children (adopted from foster care) that if they go through a stage of acting out, if we sit down and tell them the truth of the matter - it stops. Their past isn't nice or pretty and it's hard to talk about, but it's a starting point for coping. It's better for them to know then believe a story based on fear. If I share with them my own feelings, hopes and fears, they spend less time thinking I'm an evil stepmother like they saw on Cinderella. <br /><br />We try a lot of different methods of forming relationships but the most effective so far has definitely been blunt honesty. It's wonderful when it becomes so natural that it's not even thought about - it's just the way things are.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com