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@susiebook - Ha! It looks that way, does...

2010-06-02T09:48:59.455-07:00
@susiebook - Ha! It looks that way, doesn't it? I promise that's not how I pick them. :)

So now I know why you chose this prompt--you had a...

2010-06-02T09:27:17.289-07:00
So now I know why you chose this prompt--you had an excellent answer!

I also like the part about integrating families an...

2010-06-01T22:58:09.018-07:00
I also like the part about integrating families and being your kids' allies. great contribution.

Thank you for this amazing, touching post. Just fr...

2010-06-01T12:52:45.543-07:00
Thank you for this amazing, touching post. Just from what you say it's clear you are such a conscious, evolved parent. Your kids are lucky to have you (as you are them) and I appreciate your sharing this.

This was so beautifully written. I'm (hopeful...

2010-06-01T11:54:23.081-07:00
This was so beautifully written. I'm (hopefully) about to enter into an adoption in July. My husband and I would like an open adoption, the prospective birth mom is not sure how open she wants it to be. You turned a lightbulb on for me when you wrote
"But it's been quite empowering at times to focus on what I do have a say over (myself) instead of fretting about what is outside my control."

Thank you...I will focus on how I am approaching the adoption and what I can control.

I absolutely love what you wrote and I hope my son...

2010-06-01T07:23:50.490-07:00
I absolutely love what you wrote and I hope my son will feel this way about his adoption as well when he is older.

I especially love the points about a zero sum game...

2010-06-01T07:05:36.868-07:00
I especially love the points about a zero sum game and the integration of first families into extended family.

Really great thoughts, Heather.

Thank you so much. I'm going to print this out...

2010-05-31T15:57:17.352-07:00
Thank you so much. I'm going to print this out and tape it to my mirror. We're a year into a foster with the possibility to adopt relationship. Because we've had contact with this birth family for the past year it's inevitable it will be an open adoption. I struggle with the roles in this - with who we all are in this dynamic.

Your post gave me the words and goals I need to have to continue down this path with grace, respect and compassion.

It's such an emotional roller coaster and some days I wonder if I have the courage and stamina to encounter another hill, then I look in baby girl's eyes and know I would climb the biggest mountain to do what's best for her.

Once again - thank you!

I am lucky to have such great open adoption role m...

2010-05-31T15:48:46.647-07:00
I am lucky to have such great open adoption role models. Thank you.

I would love to have my First Son's mom thinki...

2010-05-31T15:23:31.053-07:00
I would love to have my First Son's mom thinking these thoughts and striving for this type of relationship. You're doing a great job!